A benefit of doing PhD is the people you meet, more importantly, the ideas that you encounter. It encourages you to constantly look at the world from different lens, entertaining outlandish ideas. On this occasion is no different. Talking to many of my friends about relationship, a common theme that I encounter is that our society expects our romantic ritual to develop sequentially from “two complete strangers negotiating for sex” to “attempting to become friends.” What if we explain this ritual dance from the view of behavioural economics.
I occasionally hear some girls complaining: “Why are all the good guys taken?” Most authorities on the subject of social interaction would attributes the main culprit to the impossibly high standards. It makes sense. Sort of. It is like setting the bar too high for your potential partner. When you only want a man who is at least six feet four tall, that cuts a lot of options. What if it is just how the game of romance operates irrespective of standard level?